Faith Works 7-17-2026
Jeff Gill
How would you like to be remembered?
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One of the more unsavory aspects of our current and ongoing social media world is how it responds to the death of significant public figures.
The old Latin tag “De mortuis nil nisi bonum” literally translates “of the dead, nothing but good” and has been elided today into “do not speak ill of the dead.” Anyhow, as I said, that’s old. And Latin. It ain’t the internet. Trust me on that, if you are a print reader here only. Speaking ill of the dead is what it does “best.”
Now, if you are very online, you might be wise enough to check some of the accounts retorting the most harshly to anyone having the nerve to speak well of someone recently deceased. In brief, there are a LOT of bots out there. Accounts that don’t seem to have actual human beings behind them, with thirty followers and following three, but a string of posts and images, mostly of the most paranoid or hostile or both sorts of responses. Robot accounts, or bots.
There are famous figures who when they die are just going to get criticism. Nixon comes to mind, and Kissinger. Sure, it’s part of being in the arena, and both had public decisions worth critically reviewing.
But Nixon died in 1994, when the internet wasn’t even a thing to more than a very few of us. Kissinger carried on into a new century, and passed away in 2023 at the age of 100. And his death brought the bots out in force, not to mention the many a bit younger than him who were old enough to remember some of his foreign policy initiatives. Now, there was a bunch of what was said about him that had me thinking people confused Kissinger and Robert McNamara, who died in 2009 so before the more general social media environment had really gotten going. In any case, if someone said anything even slightly positive about Henry, they got a torrent of angry responses.
Today, it’s pretty ugly. Uglier. Public figures dying just get slagged online, and I think the social media surge influences some of the older school media accounts. Obituaries are more critical in print, on air, and commentary panels more pointed. You may say that’s an improvement, a step towards increasing truthfulness. It’s hard to tell, and I’m open to it.
What I do find instructive in the most recent tidal surges around a sudden death is how they show us what “being your own editor” looks like. Sen. Lindsey Graham is not someone I’ve met, nor is he a politician I’ve been a big fan of, but he’s certainly been a major figure in American political life for some thirty years. His turn against and back towards President Trump galvanized a great many viewers of his career, towards two opposite poles in most cases.
Yet if you know how to sift and sort your feeds, there’s a very interesting person coming across in the many personal stories and accounts following his death. Many state a sort of opposition to start, but then tell a human, compelling, usually amusing story. Somewhere in the middle of the humor and the hubris is a person. I feel like I know Lindsey Graham a bit better now than I did before he died, and I also realize how little I can know even about a very public figure.
In the last few months, I’ve done a few funerals; part of that process is talking to people about the deceased, in preparation for at least some of what you say about them. Occasionally you hear them from the dying person themselves, who knows you will be speaking of them after their passing. There are common threads that arise, and fragments of other aspects you learn not always known to all. Out of it, you assemble a eulogy.
Which can make any of us ask: how will you be remembered? What stories do you want told about you, while you still have life enough left to shape them? You are writing those stories right now by how you live, and leaving your mark on others.
Jeff Gill is a writer, storyteller, and preacher in central Ohio; he’s done a few hundred funerals and eulogies. Tell him what stories you’ve been glad to hear at gravesides at knapsack77@gmail.com, or follow @Knapsack on X.
Jeff Gill
How would you like to be remembered?
___
One of the more unsavory aspects of our current and ongoing social media world is how it responds to the death of significant public figures.
The old Latin tag “De mortuis nil nisi bonum” literally translates “of the dead, nothing but good” and has been elided today into “do not speak ill of the dead.” Anyhow, as I said, that’s old. And Latin. It ain’t the internet. Trust me on that, if you are a print reader here only. Speaking ill of the dead is what it does “best.”
Now, if you are very online, you might be wise enough to check some of the accounts retorting the most harshly to anyone having the nerve to speak well of someone recently deceased. In brief, there are a LOT of bots out there. Accounts that don’t seem to have actual human beings behind them, with thirty followers and following three, but a string of posts and images, mostly of the most paranoid or hostile or both sorts of responses. Robot accounts, or bots.
There are famous figures who when they die are just going to get criticism. Nixon comes to mind, and Kissinger. Sure, it’s part of being in the arena, and both had public decisions worth critically reviewing.
But Nixon died in 1994, when the internet wasn’t even a thing to more than a very few of us. Kissinger carried on into a new century, and passed away in 2023 at the age of 100. And his death brought the bots out in force, not to mention the many a bit younger than him who were old enough to remember some of his foreign policy initiatives. Now, there was a bunch of what was said about him that had me thinking people confused Kissinger and Robert McNamara, who died in 2009 so before the more general social media environment had really gotten going. In any case, if someone said anything even slightly positive about Henry, they got a torrent of angry responses.
Today, it’s pretty ugly. Uglier. Public figures dying just get slagged online, and I think the social media surge influences some of the older school media accounts. Obituaries are more critical in print, on air, and commentary panels more pointed. You may say that’s an improvement, a step towards increasing truthfulness. It’s hard to tell, and I’m open to it.
What I do find instructive in the most recent tidal surges around a sudden death is how they show us what “being your own editor” looks like. Sen. Lindsey Graham is not someone I’ve met, nor is he a politician I’ve been a big fan of, but he’s certainly been a major figure in American political life for some thirty years. His turn against and back towards President Trump galvanized a great many viewers of his career, towards two opposite poles in most cases.
Yet if you know how to sift and sort your feeds, there’s a very interesting person coming across in the many personal stories and accounts following his death. Many state a sort of opposition to start, but then tell a human, compelling, usually amusing story. Somewhere in the middle of the humor and the hubris is a person. I feel like I know Lindsey Graham a bit better now than I did before he died, and I also realize how little I can know even about a very public figure.
In the last few months, I’ve done a few funerals; part of that process is talking to people about the deceased, in preparation for at least some of what you say about them. Occasionally you hear them from the dying person themselves, who knows you will be speaking of them after their passing. There are common threads that arise, and fragments of other aspects you learn not always known to all. Out of it, you assemble a eulogy.
Which can make any of us ask: how will you be remembered? What stories do you want told about you, while you still have life enough left to shape them? You are writing those stories right now by how you live, and leaving your mark on others.
Jeff Gill is a writer, storyteller, and preacher in central Ohio; he’s done a few hundred funerals and eulogies. Tell him what stories you’ve been glad to hear at gravesides at knapsack77@gmail.com, or follow @Knapsack on X.
